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I’m Nicola

Thank you for stopping by

I’m coach who helps women redefine success after becoming mothers. That might be in the early days of motherhood; nine or 12 months down the line; or it could be when your children are older; or when a life event blindsides you and everything changes again.

Why?

Because so many women find themselves in the depths of motherhood, with incredibly full lives, which are in no way fulfilling. They ache for more. What’s more they know they are capable of more, but they can’t find the capacity, or headspace, for that more.

I help women move forward, from whatever stuck place they find themselves in - that could be the stickiness of motherhood, redundancy, separation or divorce, a bereavement, a life change or simply the realisation that so much has shifted and realignment is desperately needed. It could be that your work-life alignment needs redressing and you feel you don’t have the choice to make this happen.

How?

By creating space, by getting incredibly curious, by deeply exploring the things that matter, by discovering purpose. And importantly by beginning to honour each one of these things. And having non-judgemental support and accountability every step of the way.


Things I value

01

SPACE & Solitude

I need solitude. I need space. I need air. - Virginia Woolf

The space to create, to get curious, to dream, to move physically and mentally without barriers, to reconnect to ourselves, to be present. And the revisiting of the almost-extinct act of solitude, which makes so much possible.

04

BRAVE-HEARTED-NESS

Strong back, soft front, wild heart~ Brené Brown

The act of removing the armour and embracing the messy and wondrous mixture of strength, vulnerability and rebellion, creating beautiful souls who, in turn, create beautiful lives.

02

RAW TRUTH

Let yourself be gutted. Let it open you. Start here. ~ Cheryl Strayed

The raw truth within us, which when owned, when spoken, has the ability to crack us wide open. It takes a lot of bravery to speak our truth but it’s always worth it and we can’t truly connect with what matters until we do.

05

EASE

It makes no difference how many peaks you reach if there was no pleasure in the climb. ~ Oprah Winfrey

It doesn’t have to be hard, and it is never easy. But it can have ease. It can flow and unravel in its own beautiful way if we surrender control and just let it be. We can choose ease.

03

CURIOUSITY

Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

Be curious about everything, everyone, everywhere. Be curious about ourselves, what lights us up, about what brings us down. To be curious, intentionally so, is to grow.

06

GUMPTION

I think what I've got is something slightly resembling, gumption ~ Iris Simpkins

Spirit, resourcefulness, initiative. The circle of being and claiming and creating and doing - the bravery that requires and the deep pride it creates every step of the way.


The Team

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Nicola

A COMPANY OF ONE

My vision, my hope, my dream is for mother’s to be proud of their contribution to their family, their community and to the world. I deeply believe that when women become mothers something incredible within them is broken open. It’s beautiful and yet conversely can feel catastrophic.

If they’re brave enough to embrace this opening within themselves, to learn to silence their internal and external critics, and the beliefs holding them back, to accept into this new purpose that’s being offered to them, they have the opportunity to step into a new and exciting part of their lives.

“In giving birth to our babies, we may find that we give birth to new possibilities within ourselves.” ~ Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn

I became a coach after finding myself a new mother and completely lost. The career that I had made for myself, that mattered so much, for so long, suddenly just didn’t - it was that simple. And as my journey through the early months and years of motherhood continued I found that all the trappings of success that I thought I wanted, just like my career, no longer held the same value. And I didn’t know what to do without that reference point. I felt lost, it felt like something had been ripped from me and I had no idea how to heal.

I had to take a big pause, and a long, deep (and what sometimes felt indulgent - Do you hear my inner critics at work?) dive into what did matter. It took strength and vulnerability and opening myself up to things I hadn’t considered before, and it turned out it was simple: people, conscious connection, growth, development and learning. In short: helping people become the truest versions of themselves, to not conform, to find their own way and to be brave enough to make the hard choices.

You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards ~Steve Jobs

I’d bought my first “self help” book in my first year of university and I’ve been reading and learning ever since. Through great companies I’d been part of I’d seen what strong leadership, coaching and mentorship could bring out in a person, and had experienced, first-hand, what could happen in companies that didn’t value these things. For me helping someone develop, over time, became the most important part of my job and I found myself shying away from work that wasn’t that, and actively seeking out roles that not only allowed this but made it a priority.

Retraining to be a coach has been one of the most vulnerable things I have ever experienced. Continuing to be a coach is exactly the same. It is hard work, and deep work, and soul work. And I love each and every day. The women I coach, the journeys they take, the clarity they achieve and how they move forward in their lives. This work is my purpose, it fulfils me enormously.

I am passionate about helping women discover and create what success looks like for them as mothers and spend the majority of my time working one-to-one with women, writing and occasionally running small group coaching programmes. Women who choose me as their coach are supported throughout their coaching journey (via messaging and email), not just in the sessions themselves, which allows them to feel they have a hand on their back through the harder times, and to celebrate the successes as they happen.

I am proudly and consciously a company of one. For me it is the most fulfilling way to work and it means, for you, that it is me you will be in touch with from your first contact to the completion of your coaching.

I am a trained and certified, Co-Active Coach, accredited by the ICF, and adhere to their code of ethics.

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Nala

(OCCASIONALLY) interrupting calls SINCE Oct. 2018


 
 

Some more about me…

  1. Motherhood is so important to me, but not at the cost of my personal wellbeing - I learned this lesson the hard way. Prioritising me is now the priority.

  2. I believe in intentional living, not hard living. I do not pride myself on busy-ness of any kind, I see it as a warning sign, that for me shows up physically.

  3. The simpler, slow life has now become my truest way to live. It doesn’t always come easy, and it always feels right.

  4. I am a voracious reader of books - my favourites: Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer and What I Know For Sure by Oprah Winfrey.

  5. I love spontaneity and ritual and routine - my family are still getting used to dealing with this duality.

  6. I adopt a essentialist, leaning towards minimalist, way of living and Essentialism by Greg McKeown is another of my most re-read books.

  7. I am happiest in the woods, near the water, and wearing a warm coat and boots.

  8. Yes I do have a morning ritual (baggy enough to live with - thanks Matt Haig), and an evening one too. Yes, I meditate and yes I read and write a lot. That may make me somewhat of a cliche. But I do it my way. And I actively encourage others to do the same too.