You are allowed to want more...

You are allowed to want more. More than the job that you’re good at but don’t enjoy; more than listening to your children fight over the pink cup again; more than the relationship that hasn’t been quite right for longer than you’d care to admit; more than another night in front of the TV, scrolling Instagram. This does not have to be it.

Warning signs: the scrolling, eating habits that feel compulsive, another glass of wine… And perhaps you say “some day I’d love to” or “one day I’m going to”… but you first said that two years ago and nothing’s changed. 

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Go Grow: What change will you commit to this IWD?

I am a coach, and more specifically a coach for women, mothers. And as I sit here on International Women's Day, I feel a pressure. A pressure to say the right thing. To provide the right words of wisdom. The egoic part of me says I should be running some kind of promotion (not me at all) or to be creating the most instagram-able picture or post that will help my business (and that isn't me either). So instead of that, I tuned into myself, and ask the question: what should I be sharing today?

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Comfort - the enemy of progress?

When I watched The Greatest Showman for the first time (I have gone on to see it, or hear it from a distance, a further 18 times, give or take), I was hit in the chest by a quote: “comfort is the enemy of progress”.

You may recognise this scenario. You’ve been lost, stuck, asking “what the hell is happening with my life”, and then it comes - a little bit of clarity, and then more, you start to feel excited, lit up, driven and then you stop. Sometimes this happens over a few weeks, sometimes this entire process can happen in just seconds. It is so common and I see it all the time with the women I work with. We move forward a giant leap, and then it’s like our feet get stuck in the sand and we can’t move any further.  Something else has taken hold. 

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How Meghan made me remember I was playing far too small

On the build up to the royal wedding on Saturday, it is fair to say I was pretty grumpy. I couldn’t quite place why, or what was bothering me. I wanted to go to our local town, Windsor, to watch the event - I wanted to be part of it in some way. But in reality, and bear with my as I am aware how cuckoo I sound, I wanted to actually be at the church. What the fuck eh? Who do I think I am? 

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Dear Fear

Dear Fear, You have served me so well. And I am sure you will do again, if ever I am about to walk into a road without looking both ways, or when driving on icy roads. But here’s the thing, you’ve got too cautious, you’ve extended your (without doubt lifesaving and super critical) role into my every day. And it needs to stop. 

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The Danger of Coping

The week before last was a bad week in my world. So bad that I broke a bit (a lot) and had to cancel a group call I had in the diary. I was immediately, and very lovingly, met with lots of requests to know what was wrong, some from people who I haven’t actively heard from in months. And the thing is I couldn’t answer. The actual reason seemed so silly and small that I was a bit embarrassed to admit what was actually causing me to have a mini-break down and hug a radiator*.

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“Content where I am, eager for more”

I stumbled across this Abraham Hicks quote at the weekend and it hit me in the heart. I love words and I’ve been playing around with various ways to precisely describe WHY I set up my business. And this is it. Concise and beautiful. 

“Content where I am, eager for more” - Abraham Hicks

We can be content where we are, while also being eager for more.

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Don't be a mother judger - sisterhood not criticism helps mother thrive

Who inspires you? Who inspires your best friend? Your partner? Your mother? The man who walks past you with his dog in the street? For every person, there’ll be a different answer.

Different stuff works for different people. Which is why I find it so frustrating when I see articles that suggest a certain way of living our lives is wrong. An article in the Daily Mail this morning did just that. It took the lives of women, who are also mothers, and judged them.

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Work/life balance?

The term work/life balance. Over-used, over-simplified and over-promised. I guess the term is supposed to ensure that we spend time (1) looking after our jobs and (2) looking after our lives, making sure the two are nicely balanced. But in my experience its simply a term pandered around and used less as a positive and more as a way to berate ourselves for the lack of said balance in our lives.

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