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It’s autumn! Whatever your thoughts about the wonderful seasons we enjoy here in the UK, September is definitely divisive. I love nothing more than boots, jumpers and jeans, long skirts and tights but I know others are mourning the end of flip-flop and floaty skirt season. Be kind to yourself during this change, whether you embrace or resist it.
I must start of with an apology for not setting expectations terribly well. The summer took a different turn than I expected and I naturally found myself leaning towards family time, maximising time with my girls, the youngest of whom started school this week - and all non-crucial work took a backseat. It was a wonderful summer and one I hope to repeat again next year - more on this to come. Had I planned this, I would have let you know that the newsletter was taking a brief hiatus but it happened so organically that I just went with it - so apologises for its absence. Any questions on any of the above, I'd be really happy to answer. Read More
Each fortnight I share a book, a podcast or app, a blog, and then something random, that I think you should take a look at. Read More
A book: This week I am recommending an author, Dr Shefali Tsabary. Her books, for me, have been life changing but I do warn you they also overwhelmed me AND that doesn't mean you shouldn't read them. Dr Shefali writes about parenthood and the family in a way that I haven't heard anything else do so.
Each fortnight I summarise four things that I recommend or have been thinking about - a book, a podcast or app, a blog and then something random.
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Book: People who have worked with me will know this is a favourite of mine. Present Over Perfect is by Shauna Niequist and the blurb says: 'leaving behind frantic for a simpler, more soulful way of living'. I think this book is incredible. I can best describe it as a series of essays, and honestly, she writes so beautifully.
Each fortnight I am going to summarise four things I recommend or am thinking about - a book, a podcast, a blog, and then something random.
Book: Much is talked about Brené Brown's more well known books, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong and the more recent Braving the Wilderness, but there is a book that pre-dated and informs much of the content of all these books, called The Gifts of Imperfection.
When I watched The Greatest Showman for the first time (I have gone on to see it, or hear it from a distance, a further 18 times, give or take), I was hit in the chest by a quote: “comfort is the enemy of progress”.
You may recognise this scenario. You’ve been lost, stuck, asking “what the hell is happening with my life”, and then it comes - a little bit of clarity, and then more, you start to feel excited, lit up, driven and then you stop. Sometimes this happens over a few weeks, sometimes this entire process can happen in just seconds. It is so common and I see it all the time with the women I work with. We move forward a giant leap, and then it’s like our feet get stuck in the sand and we can’t move any further. Something else has taken hold. Read More
On the build up to the royal wedding on Saturday, it is fair to say I was pretty grumpy. I couldn’t quite place why, or what was bothering me. I wanted to go to our local town, Windsor, to watch the event - I wanted to be part of it in some way. But in reality, and bear with my as I am aware how cuckoo I sound, I wanted to actually be at the church. What the fuck eh? Who do I think I am? Read More
I’ve written this post twice already and now, good enough is what is needed. You’re invited to read my summary of the amazing Pregnant Then Screwed event, list style, inspired by Clemmie Telford.
Pregnant Then Screwed is an amazing movement, founded by Joeli Brearley Read More
Here’s mine and here is how I changed it. I have a few stories obviously, there is the one about the broken family; the one about the broken heart… many many stories. But this is the story of the girl who wanted to be a hairdresser, then a journalist, then work in advertising and eventually landed upon the idea of doing PR. Read More
Dear Fear, You have served me so well. And I am sure you will do again, if ever I am about to walk into a road without looking both ways, or when driving on icy roads. But here’s the thing, you’ve got too cautious, you’ve extended your (without doubt lifesaving and super critical) role into my every day. And it needs to stop. Read More
The week before last was a bad week in my world. So bad that I broke a bit (a lot) and had to cancel a group call I had in the diary. I was immediately, and very lovingly, met with lots of requests to know what was wrong, some from people who I haven’t actively heard from in months. And the thing is I couldn’t answer. The actual reason seemed so silly and small that I was a bit embarrassed to admit what was actually causing me to have a mini-break down and hug a radiator*. Read More
I stumbled across this Abraham Hicks quote at the weekend and it hit me in the heart. I love words and I’ve been playing around with various ways to precisely describe WHY I set up my business. And this is it. Concise and beautiful.
“Content where I am, eager for more” - Abraham Hicks
We can be content where we are, while also being eager for more. Read More
Who inspires you? Who inspires your best friend? Your partner? Your mother? The man who walks past you with his dog in the street? For every person, there’ll be a different answer.
Different stuff works for different people. Which is why I find it so frustrating when I see articles that suggest a certain way of living our lives is wrong. An article in the Daily Mail this morning did just that. It took the lives of women, who are also mothers, and judged them. Read More
Nicola and Nic are both me. And for a long time I felt like I was stuck between these two places, that a choice had to be made to be one or the other. It is where many women find themselves. It is where even more mothers find themselves. ‘Stuck’ between a former self (perhaps a pre-motherhood self) and a person they are, or are starting to become, later in their lives. Read More
The term work/life balance. Over-used, over-simplified and over-promised. I guess the term is supposed to ensure that we spend time (1) looking after our jobs and (2) looking after our lives, making sure the two are nicely balanced. But in my experience its simply a term pandered around and used less as a positive and more as a way to berate ourselves for the lack of said balance in our lives. Read More