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It’s autumn! Whatever your thoughts about the wonderful seasons we enjoy here in the UK, September is definitely divisive. I love nothing more than boots, jumpers and jeans, long skirts and tights but I know others are mourning the end of flip-flop and floaty skirt season. Be kind to yourself during this change, whether you embrace or resist it.
I must start of with an apology for not setting expectations terribly well. The summer took a different turn than I expected and I naturally found myself leaning towards family time, maximising time with my girls, the youngest of whom started school this week - and all non-crucial work took a backseat. It was a wonderful summer and one I hope to repeat again next year - more on this to come. Had I planned this, I would have let you know that the newsletter was taking a brief hiatus but it happened so organically that I just went with it - so apologises for its absence. Any questions on any of the above, I'd be really happy to answer.
Each fortnight I share a book, a podcast or app, a blog, and then something random, that I think you should take a look at.
A book: This week I am recommending an author, Dr Shefali Tsabary. Her books, for me, have been life changing but I do warn you they also overwhelmed me AND that doesn't mean you shouldn't read them. Dr Shefali writes about parenthood and the family in a way that I haven't heard anything else do so.
Each fortnight I summarise four things that I recommend or have been thinking about - a book, a podcast or app, a blog and then something random.
Book: People who have worked with me will know this is a favourite of mine. Present Over Perfect is by Shauna Niequist and the blurb says: 'leaving behind frantic for a simpler, more soulful way of living'. I think this book is incredible. I can best describe it as a series of essays, and honestly, she writes so beautifully.
When I watched The Greatest Showman for the first time (I have gone on to see it, or hear it from a distance, a further 18 times, give or take), I was hit in the chest by a quote: “comfort is the enemy of progress”.
You may recognise this scenario. You’ve been lost, stuck, asking “what the hell is happening with my life”, and then it comes - a little bit of clarity, and then more, you start to feel excited, lit up, driven and then you stop. Sometimes this happens over a few weeks, sometimes this entire process can happen in just seconds. It is so common and I see it all the time with the women I work with. We move forward a giant leap, and then it’s like our feet get stuck in the sand and we can’t move any further. Something else has taken hold.
On the build up to the royal wedding on Saturday, it is fair to say I was pretty grumpy. I couldn’t quite place why, or what was bothering me. I wanted to go to our local town, Windsor, to watch the event - I wanted to be part of it in some way. But in reality, and bear with my as I am aware how cuckoo I sound, I wanted to actually be at the church. What the fuck eh? Who do I think I am?
Here’s mine and here is how I changed it. I have a few stories obviously, there is the one about the broken family; the one about the broken heart… many many stories. But this is the story of the girl who wanted to be a hairdresser, then a journalist, then work in advertising and eventually landed upon the idea of doing PR.
Dear Fear, You have served me so well. And I am sure you will do again, if ever I am about to walk into a road without looking both ways, or when driving on icy roads. But here’s the thing, you’ve got too cautious, you’ve extended your (without doubt lifesaving and super critical) role into my every day. And it needs to stop.